How to be a Better Couple
(10 steps to enjoying each other more)
Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face
it, guys - there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has
had her implants removed! Give your girl a break and understand that her
physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few
facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so
you're going have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out and love each
other for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not your favorite pastime or mode of resolving issues
but you know what? This works with the girls. Don't make assumptions about
each others’ feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your
partner understands what you're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy
about! When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the
beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves
in some shared activities; something both of you enjoys or interested
in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling
though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do
give in if your gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than
suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities"
instead. If you're spending more time with your friends rather than with
your partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The Rock" print, you
shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy.
There's got to be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to
meet each other halfway.
5. Show your love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have
been together for years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that
you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal and paint him a Valentine's
Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear (like for decoration
purposes!), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe
for him...so he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having
been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to
laugh at! Ask yourself if she thinks if it’s funny. And if he has an
inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him
feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being
sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals don't bring up the happy things about you
and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous or unhappy. And guys,
don't talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention her
in every other sentence as it would make your gal feel un-happy and she
might think that you're saying all this because you are going to get back
with your ex or aren't interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on your jealousy.
All of us go through spells of insecurity at the beginning of the
relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you're
going to go through your partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on
conversations, you know something is wrong - with you!!! Jealousy is like a
poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing
it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep your commitments to each other.
If your partner is standing you up all the time and canceling dates and
breaking promises, you need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make
your partner your priority and don't disappoint them if you can help it. It's
really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner, and then calls
to cancel it. Don't make promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to
feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may just lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning,
or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly! When we say "be honest", we
mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When you're
hurt, say so, and when you're angry, tell him/her, without getting
hysterical. If you can't be honest with your partner, who can you be honest
with? If Love is also about honesty, then a relationship where honesty
doesn't exists probably isn't worth it!